QTies: A Bay Area Queer & Trans Play Party (July 2019)

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When July 27, 2019 - July 28, 2019
7:30 pm - 12:00 am


Iron Giant Loft
1080 23rd Avenue
Oakland, CA 94601
United States


By popular request, we’re throwing a play party exclusively for queer, trans, genderfluid, genderqueer, and lesbian, gay, bi, and pansexual attendees. Come to a space where you’re not the only one in the room, where you’re as likely to encounter bi men hooking up as you are bi women, where femme invisibility is minimized (but all presentations are welcomed), and where all trans bodies are celebrated.

Let Alex lead you through a welcome circle where a room of strangers slowly opens up and winds up on the same page, having the opportunity to be seen, heard, and understood in ways maybe you have never even imagined!

What is Play with a capital “P”?

Play with a capital “P” is whatever it means to you. You are invited to co-create whatever feeds your soul. Participation (also with a capital “P”) can mean many things and voyeurs are as warmly welcomed as the most actively engaged. It’s a sensual space where participants are encouraged to explore themselves and others in ways that are stimulating, nurturing, exciting, safe and FUN!

This is the Play party you want to come to if you’ve never been AND this is the Play party you want to come to if you want to experience how to take generating safe play space for you and your favorite people to the next level.

$30 per person, $50 per couple or pair
(Sliding scale available)

ONLINE REGISTRATION AT: https://lgbqtiesjul19.brownpapertickets.com

Register Here


You are sensually, erotically and emotionally savvy enough to Play nicely with others. You’re a good sharer, you take good care of your toys and you use your words. 🙂 You are somebody who knows your own wants and boundaries and can communicate them clearly… and/or you’re someone willing to work and explore these areas for your own growth and enjoyment! You treat yourself and others with respect and kindness.

If you’re reading this, thinking, “I would love to come, but I don’t want to play,” PLEASE COME and enjoy the pressure-free company of like-minded individuals and exit whenever you wish. Really. There will be no pressure for you to do ANY activity at this party at any time.

Our biggest request is that you come with a fun-loving, warm, caring, open-minded, generous, thoughtful, compassionate, non-judgmental attitude and that you conduct yourself with the highest level of integrity possible.

This will be a very chill, fun, playful event where sex and nudity will most likely occur. Come relax. Come sip a glass of something non-alcoholic or a cup of tea. Come smooch. Come play. Come watch. (You know us: voyeurism is participation!)

All genders, bodies, races, and orientations welcome under the LGBTQI umbrella.This is an adults-only (18+), alcohol- and substance-free event that centers queer transgender, non-binary, and gender non-conforming folks. Come as you are and have a great time!


Doors open at 7:30 PM and CLOSE AT 8:00 PM. BE ON TIME as it is essential to have everyone present for the opening circle. There will not be anyone admitted after the doors are closed to preserve the safety of our space. 

The Welcome Circle is what we use to introduce ourselves to one another, have a safer sex conversation, share any boundaries and relationship agreements people should know about and get all comfy and ready to Play.

There will be an optional closing circle at midnight.

PLEASE text Alex at (510) 480-0235 if you’re running up to 10 minutes late, but please just be on time!


Your sexy self and whatever food and non-alcoholic drink you might want for the evening. (No alcohol or substances please. We like our Playmates to be present and capable of connection.) Bring whatever sexy things you’d like to don and lounge in while we frolic or just throw on your regular weekend clothes for relaxation. Bring along whatever safer sex accoutrements you desire – condoms, dental dams, gloves, toys, lube – whatever you might be needing to create that perrrrrfect evening. We’ll have some on hand in the space, but your favorite gear is always more comfortable. Oh, and of course, please bring a Playful attitude and an open heart and mind.

This will be a very chill, fun, playful event where sex and nudity will most likely occur. Come relax. Come sip a glass of something or a cup of tea. Come smooch. Come play. Come watch – voyeurism is participation! Hope to see you there!


Wear whatever makes you feel fabulous! Casual to fetish wear to dressed-up/dapper all equally welcomed; just be street-appropriate entering the event.


$30 per person, $50 per pair

(Sliding scale available)

Please note that tickets for QTies may sell out early. When tickets sell out, there will be none available at door. Save your spot now:

ONLINE REGISTRATION AT: https://lgbqtiesjul19.brownpapertickets.com

Register Here

Worried about how the charge will show up on your card, or want to register online without using a PayPal account? Click here.


Iron Giant Loft, 1080 23rd Avenue, Oakland, CA

BART accessible; free on-street parking.

Spacious, private live/work loft in a residential building. Plenty of couch, chair, and cozy mattress space available.


First floor, no stairs or steps. All gender restroom. Low-fragrance space. We ask attendees to use unscented products and arrive fragrance-free so that everyone can play comfortably. There are two cats in residence; they will be in a closed back room during the event. There is a HEPA air purifier in the event space itself to reduce allergens.

If something comes up and you can’t attend, just email Alex to ask for rollover credit to a future event.

Text or email Alex if you have any questions or concerns: (510) 480-0235 / Events@AlexSMorgan.com

Kisses and hugs and relaxin’ in a sex-positive space…

About QTies

QTies is an 18+, consent-focused play party exclusively for LGBTQI+ attendees. It’s a safe, sober space for queer, transgender, lesbian, gay, bisexual, pansexual, and non-binary folks to play, flirt, scene, snuggle, chat – and NOT be the only one in the room.

Founded in February 2015 by sex educator and relationship coach Alex S. Morgan, QTies has been called “surprisingly sweet,” “incredibly hot,” “playful in every sense of the word,” “one of the few places LGBTQ adults genuinely have permission to play like adults, play with sex, and play with who they are,” and “the first sex-positive play space I’ve felt comfortable taking my clothes off in.” 

QTies is held monthly in the San Francisco Bay Area and regularly in the Washington, DC area. Want to bring the party to your city, group, or community center? Get in touch with Alex: Events@AlexSMorgan.com

About Your Facilitator

Alex S. Morgan is a gender, sexuality, and relationship coach, a sexual rights advocate, and a sacred intimate. Working directly with others’ sexuality since 2004 has given Alex a deft sensitivity to the needs of those exploring new facets of themselves and an understanding of the power of connection in both our public and private lives. A firm believer in continuing education for all adults exploring sex, gender, and relationships, Alex presents internationally on relationships, kink, sexuality, gender, and related policy issues at venues ranging from private workshops to public organizations, Stanford to SXSW. They offer workshops, facilitated events, and inservice trainings by request.

Alex is available for both individual and couples coaching, face to face at their Bay Area practice or worldwide via phone and video call. Follow Alex S. Morgan on Facebook, on Twitter as @Alex_S_Morgan, on Instagram, on FetLife, or at https://AlexSMorgan.com